We overestimate the power of action. And we underestimate the power of attention.
If you’ve worked hard to change or improve, but still fallen short, you may believe that you need to work on yourself or hide that persistent flaw. You don’t need to improve. You don’t need more willpower to fight the flaw. Instead, you could become much more familiar with how you do that thing you do – that problem, flaw, or persistent pattern. Familiarity without struggle and without judgment leads to new choices.